Wednesday, April 25, 2007

CONFLICT


Conflict is a state of opposition, disagreement or incompatibility between two or more people or groups of people, which is sometimes characterized by physical violence Psychologically, a conflict exists when the reduction of one motivating involves an increase in another, so that a new adjustment is demanded. The word means that the clash occurs. Even when we say that there is a potential conflict we are implying that there is already a conflict of direction even though a clash may not yet have occurred.
A conceptual conflict can transformate into a verbal exchange or result in
fighting. Conflict can exist at a variety of levels of analysis:
Emotional conflict, group conflict, community, intrapersonal, interpersonal conflict. For example,
aproach-avoidance conflict is an example of intrapersonal conflict.
The way how the conflict will be solved depends on these factors: skills and abilities, conflict management type, personalities, ethics, emotions

There are many components to the emotions that are connected with conflicts. these are behavioral, physiological, cognitive components.


Behavioral- The way emotional experience gets expressed which can be verbal or non-verba
Physiological- The bodily experience of emotion.
Cognitive- The idea that we evaluate an event to reveal itsimportance to ourselves.

Online Conflicts


There are a number of reasons to explain why conflict may be heightened online. One is the absence of visual and auditory cues. When we talk to someone in person, we see their facial expressions, their body language, and hear their tone of voice. Someone can say the exact same thing in a number of different ways, and that usually effects how we respond. For example, someone could shout and shake their finger at you. They could stand up and tower over you, or they could sit down beside you. How you feel, interpret, and respond to someone’s message often depends on how they speak to you, even when it?s a difficult message to hear.
Conflict can be heightened online by what is known as the disinhibition effect. It is well known that people say and do things in cyberspace that they wouldn't ordinarily say or do in the face-to-face world. They express themselves more openly. Researchers call this the "disinhibition effect”.

There are some tips for resolving conflict online. For example, do not respond right away or read the post later, it can bring a new perspective. Besides, you can discuss the situation with someone who knows you. Ask them what they think about the post and the response you plan to send. Also you could clarify what was meant
We all misinterpret what we hear and read, particularly when we feel hurt or upset. It is a good idea to check out that you understood them correctly. Also you can must choose your words carefully and thoughtfully, particularly when you are upset and place yourself in the other person’s shoes. The other good way that helps to avoid unnecessary conflict is using emotions to express the tone. Additionally, if you like the person, tell them! Having a conflict or misunderstanding does not mean you do not like the person any more, but people often forget that reality. End on a positive note as well.

So a person who often conflicts should take some efforts and steps how to avoid conflicts. It is not so difficult as it may seem at first sight. Every conversation, also a conflict, has it beginning, culmination and ending. We must know the rules which helps to communicate better. That is a good beginning!

LAUGH


Humor is one of the pleasures of life. To dispense laughter will directly enhance the quality of life and perhaps the will to live - this may be the most important result of all.
First of all, humans were designed to laugh. Laughter is nature's stressbuster. It lifts our spirits with a happy high that makes us feel good and improves our behavior towards others. A regular 20 minute laughter session can have a profound impact on our health and wellbeing. Laughter is gentle exercise. It fill your lungs and body with oxygen, deep-clears your breathing passages and exercises your lungs. Stress is reduced, blood pressure drops, depression is lifted, your immune system is boosted & more. It is recommended to laugh 20 minutes a day. Laughter exercises almost always lead to real laughter.
It is not known yet why laughing protects the heart, but it is known that mental stress is associated with impairment of the endothelium, the protective barrier lining our blood vessels. People with heart disease are less likely to laugh in uncomfortable situations and are overall less likely to recognize humor. Overall the participants with heart disease laughed less than the healthy participants, even in positive situations.
In psychology, there is a theory entitled the "facial feedback" hypothesis. This hypothesis states that "involuntary facial movements provide sufficient peripheral information to drive emotional experience, feedback from facial expression affects emotional expression and behavior". In other words, you may actually be able to improve your mood by simply smiling! Laughter can be a powerful therapy for the patient. The ability to laugh at a situation or problem gives us a feeling of superiority and power. Humor and laughter can foster a positive and hopeful attitude. Humor gives us a sense of perspective on our problems. Our ability to see the humor in a situation and to laugh freely with our coworkers can be an effective way to take care of our own body, mind and spirit.For thousands of years, the human race has extolled the health-enhancing benefits of laughter.

What is more, it is shown that negative emotions could create chemical changes which would eventually lead to adrenal exhaustion. Therefore the positive emotions such as faith, hope, confidence and joy might create changes within the body which would enhance his recovery process. Since the behavior of laughing tends to open one to these positive emotions. For example, after each laughing episode the patients could sleep comfortably without the need for analgesia or sedation. Laughter does effect the body, mind and spirit.
Besides, humor is a perceptual process while laughter is a behavioral response. This behavior creates predictable physiological changes within the body. As with other exercise, we see two stages of the body's response, the arousal phase when the physiological parameters increase, and the resolution phase when they return to resting rate or lower. With vigorous sustained laughter, the heart rate is stimulated. Conditions such as asthma or bronchitis may be irritated by vigorous laughter. A variety of muscle groups become active during laugh.
Humor and laughter effect how we perceive and respond to change. Humor gives us a change of perspective on our problems and with an attitude of detachment, we feel a sense of self-protection and control in our environment. Freud noted the powerful psychological influence of humor stating.
The next time you are down - the next time you are feeling blue or just plain old blah - SMILE!! An action as simple as that just may improve your spirits.